Week 25: Practice Being a Better Listener

I want to continue to review all that we have accomplished. We have continued to eliminate negative thinking, label read, recognize the importance of breathing, add positive affirmations into our daily lives, eliminate high fructose corn syrup (fructose as well) & dyes from our diet, sit in silence within nature for 30 minutes a day, set goals in our lives, eliminate preservatives from the diet, practice forgiveness, offer an attitude to gratitude, drink a glass of water each morning before we put anything into our bodies, offer more love to others in our life, eat more raw foods, let go of preconceived ideas, be impeccable with our word, drink half our body weight in ounces of water, made a personal mission statement, rest for 20 minutes a day, eliminate sugar & sugar substitutes, not take things personally, look for the positive in others, take a 30 minute walk every day, search for our own personal truth and this week we are going to practice being better listeners.

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Being a good listener is one of the best gifts you can offer to another. One of my mentors in chiropractic was such a successful guy. Everyone wanted to talk to him yet when he was with you, no matter how brief the moment, you felt like you were the only one he cared about. Wow! That is so powerful! Especially with this chaotic, ever moving way of life.

That set an example for me with those I serve in chiropractic. I had to start somewhere. I always listened to what participants (patients) expressed in their current health issues or past heath history. But I was always so excited and eager to tell them the truth about chiropractic and why they have experienced what they have so far without results. Anyone should be beyond jazzed to express that the resolution to their dis-ease is reconnecting the life force that has dimmed over time due to life stressors! That is the first step towards healing & reconnecting life. I couldn’t wait to share this message and what I feel I have been chosen to do in life. However, I still needed to find a way to sit silently and absorb their words. I had to practice to not let my excitement stop them shop of expressing something that may be part of their healing journey.

So thankfully now almost into 11 years of practice, I learn everyday. I learn to sit, become more open, allow them to feel my understanding & compassion. I want them to feel like they are the most important person to me in that moment because they are! This is something that will need special attention at first but in time, it becomes natural.

One thing that you may have heard in the past is that there is a different between hearing and listening. This is something worth thinking about and can be helpful to remember in moments we may start to drift.

 “Hearing is simply the act of perceiving sound by the ear. If you are not hearing-impaired, hearing simply happens. Listening, however, is something you consciously choose to do. Listening requires concentration so that your brain processes meaning from words and sentences.”

 I once read in one of my devotional books that you need to almost close your eyes to focus on and absorb only their words. Feel emotion based on what they may have felt. That was a very intense description for me but true in many ways. When we are completely enveloped in caring about someone else, we can make them feel better just by our grounded presence in listening.

Best of luck as you continue this transformative journey! I know that each week we are all closer to a more whole, happier version of ourselves. Give yourself a hug or pat on the back for all your weeks of hard work!

 

Resources:

http://www.d.umn.edu/kmc/student/loon/acad/strat/ss_hearing.html

http://study.com/academy/lesson/hearing-vs-listening-importance-of-listening-skills-for-speakers.html

http://keydifferences.com/difference-between-hearing-and-listening.html

http://www.livestrong.com/article/83661-difference-between-hearing-listening/

http://www.livestrong.com/article/83661-difference-between-hearing-listening/

 

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