Week 30: Don’t Make Assumptions

I want to continue to review all that we have accomplished. We have continued to eliminate negative thinking, label read, recognize the importance of breathing, add positive affirmations into our daily lives, eliminate high fructose corn syrup (fructose as well) & dyes from our diet, sit in silence within nature for 30 minutes a day, set goals in our lives, eliminate preservatives from the diet, practice forgiveness, offer an attitude to gratitude, drink a glass of water each morning before we put anything into our bodies, offer more love to others in our life, eat more raw foods, let go of preconceived ideas, be impeccable with our word, drink half our body weight in ounces of water, made a personal mission statement, rest for 20 minutes a day, eliminate sugar & sugar substitutes, not take things personally, look for the positive in others, take a 30 minute walk every day, find our own personal truth, practice being better listeners, reduce our daily meat consumption overall, laugh more often, look for the positive in all situations, eat clean meat and this week we are going to not make assumptions.

This is the third pearl of wisdom from the book, “The Four Agreements”. The first was be impeccable with your word, the second was don’t take anything personally and the third we will practice this week by not making assumptions. What does this mean exactly? Making assumptions that lead to taking things personally is a very common response when something is done that affects us in any way. We will judge the experience and think that something is either wrong with someone else in order for them to behave the way they do.

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An example of this is getting in a fight with a loved one or even your toddler. There are many things that will lead up to a fight or blow out event. Even though there may be truth in what is being fought over, there is always more to it than what brought things to the surface. Maybe that person was hurt in a similar way in the past, maybe it could be as simple as they are tired and/or their blood sugar is dropping because they need to eat. Maybe they are going through a rough time in another area of life but are venting & taking it out on you. It is always important to look at any given situation, utilize accountability and see how you could improve as a spiritual being having a human experience. However, it is also important to remove yourself from situations as such and while stepping back, offer love to them by not taking it personally first and then by not assuming it is all about you or that they are crazy.

Another way of making assumptions is sterotypes. We may have seen someone dressed down, with dirty clothes and driving an old, beat up car then assume they are poor or uneducated when, in reality they may be millionaires living a humble life and donation their time helping charity fix or build homes. We may see a kid dressed in all black with multiple piercings and/or tattoos and assume they have no direction in life when, in reality they are graduating college with honors.

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There are many different scenarios when we can, have and could make assumptions about others. Basically, the best way to handle this is to recognize it as it happens then clear your mind. No matter what the case, be sure to see all people & circumstances with an open mind and with letting all things be possible. Making assumptions can close possible doors that may have led to greater experiences & awareness. It is always better to be without judgement and just see things as another possibility in this world.

Later in these weeks we will cover the fourth and last agreement, “Always Do Your Best”. Good luck as you continue this transformative journey! I know that each week we are all closer to a more whole, happier version of ourselves. Give yourself a hug or pat on the back for all your weeks of hard work!

 

Resources:

http://www.toltecspirit.com

http://vividlife.me/ultimate/30396/the-second-agreement-dont-make-assumptions/

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/28/four-agreements-don-miguel-ruiz-drama-assumptions_n_3468099.html

http://marciasirotamd.com/psychology-popular-culture/problem-making-assumptions

 

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